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February Ketchup

28 Feb

ShannonAThompson.com hit 14,000 followers!

Thank you. Bogart and I really appreciate your support. We often sit in front of the lap top together, gazing at the screen as if something magical might happen. When we hit 14,000 followers, something magical did happen, and it was exciting for both of us. (I, for one, was glad Bogart was able to refrain from sitting on my keyboard during this time.)

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The Journey of Two also reviewed Seconds Before Sunrise, stating, “When the battle finally comes it won’t be anything like you think…I finished the book in three days and I’m certain it could be devoured in even less. The pace is handled perfectly, the action and flow move forward seamlessly. The climax is satisfying and yet not completely whole, leaving readers primed and anxious for the next installment.”

I gave in. I had to call this new segment “Ketchup” instead of “Catch-up.” Oh, word play. How I love you.

But, yes, today is a new day that I will post at the end of every month. It basically outlines every post of that month so you can see if you missed anything you’re interested in. I will also show the most popular posts according to my viewing stats at the top. So enjoy!

Top Three Posts: 

1. You Have Committed Copyright Infringement: content from my novel was copy and pasted into other writers’ stories. This is what I did about it – it also outlines what writers and authors can do to prevent this from happening.

2. Readers Hating Other Readers: too many people are getting picked on for what they read. We need to stop this by encouraging positive reading environments.

3. My Insecurities and How I Overcame Them: Everybody has insecurities. This is how I overcame mine, especially those that I cannot change.

Writing Tips:

Dual Perspectives: Should Characters Have Equal Time to Speak? Both of my published novels are told from two perspectives. This is how I decided who got to speak more.

For the First Time in a Long Time, I Struggled with Writing and This is What I Did About It: When I was invited to submit to an event by The New York Times, I was ecstatic. Then I saw the topic, and I dropped out. Find out why.

Help: I’ve Returned to an Old Piece of Writing and I Can See Influences From My Past: I am already working on my next novel to get published, but I saw influences that I hadn’t seen before. This post helps you overcome these instances.

Thank you.

Thank you.

Helping Authors: 

How Readers Surprise Me: Favorite Quotes: In an interview, I was asked how readers surprise me. This was the number one topic I have dealt with and how I’ve embraced it with excitement.

Why I Love My Facebook Author Page: Facebook is getting a bad reputation with businesses recently. This is why I still love it.

My Author Life:

Author Announcements (1): I received my diploma, hit 100 ratings on Goodreads, and my novel was voted for on NovelUnity.

Author Announcements (2): my 30-Day countdown began, the first review of Seconds Before Sunrise, and website changes.

Book Trailer Tuesday: Minutes Before Sunset now has a book trailer.

Other:

February’s Entertainment Reviews: I reviewed 7 movies, 5 novels, 3 playlists, 1 cooking recipe, and a dancing cat toy.

This photo reminded me of “shades” in The Timely Death Trilogy. Photo by ddictator.

This photo reminded me of “shades” in The Timely Death Trilogy. Photo by ddictator.

My Insecurities and How I Overcame Them

18 Feb

Before I start I have one article I would like everyone who plays Candy Crush Saga to consider. As many of you know I wrote, Why You Should Boycott King and Candy Crush Saga, less than a month ago, and now I have another reason to encourage it. Please read this: CandySwipe Open Letter to King regarding trademark. We cannot sit back and allow corporations to take over the little guy in any field, especially artistic ones. Thank you for taking a minute out of your day.

After my previous post about my mother’s death affecting my feelings about graduation, I received many heartfelt messages here and in my email. I cannot express how much I appreciate your encouragement and how you took a minute to share your personal story in order to help me. I am always blown away by how lovely everyone is. Thank you.

You are the single reason I decided I had to write this post today. 

Everyone has insecurities. It happens. It’s natural. We’re human, after all. And we live in a world that is often setting up expectations full of judgement. I am no different than anyone else. I have had my list of insecurities. I don’t normally do this, and I probably won’t do it again for a long time, but I thought I would share some facts about myself that I used to struggle with that I haven’t shared before. Again, this is in the hopes of helping others embrace themselves, especially those parts of you that you cannot change. 

1. My handwriting is horrible – seriously horrible. 

I was originally left-handed, but I now write with my right hand. Before this switch, my handwriting was normal. Now, I can’t even read it sometimes. I often get told I “write like a boy” – which, in itself, I now think is wrong.

But what’s the reason? When I was eleven, I was showing someone how to shoot a basketball in my morning gym class. That’s when I tripped, and my hand slammed into the floor. At the time, I didn’t know it, but I had broken my growth plate. When I told the school nurse I was hurt, they sent me back to class because they thought I was trying to skip a math test. I didn’t go to the hospital until nine that evening. Consequensly, I did permanent damage, and my right arm is now significantly longer than my left arm. Instead of handwriting, I definitely type everything up. But I’m not mad about the situation. The nurse was doing her job, and things happen. Mistakes happen. I embrace it. I learned how to write with my right hand, I use black, G-2 pens to cheer myself up (because those pens are lovely) and I often show off my shorter arm as a party joke. When it hurts, (because it often hurts), I remind myself that I can always exercise it to make it stronger. I also remind myself that there are people who don’t have hands at all. I am lucky that I can still type with it, that I still have it, and knowing how lucky I am has allowed me to stay positive about physical therapy with my hand and overall arm strength.

2. I have bad depth perception.

This is me, and I love being me.

This is me, and I love being me. I also love putting my hair on top of my head like a bird nest.

Believe it or not, my eyes are totally different sizes. It’s true, and before you think this is normal, it is significant (although most cannot tell until I point it out.) I actually have depth perception problems from it, which I was diagnosed with my freshman year in college. They have to test my eyes every time I get a driver’s license renewed. Perhaps this is why I’m so clumsy. (I hit everything.) But I can laugh at myself. Learning to laugh at myself is pretty easy and quite enjoyable. I cannot change the size of my eyes or how I physically see the world, but I can change how I mentally see the world. I can have a positive attitude about the world.

3. I talk funny. (I say “funny” because it often makes people laugh.) 

I was born in Allentown, Pennsylvania. By the time I was fifteen, I had also lived in Oklahoma, Wisconsin, Georgia, Kansas, and Missouri. This has caused some confusion in my speech patterns and idioms, often causing me to stutter. I have a lot of things backwards, and my accents come out together – at the same time, I can sound like a southern belle that once lived in Canada (mainly because my father lived in Canada, and I’ve picked up his phrases as well as the ones I received from Green Bay, Wisconsin.) Saying “turn on the garburator” at a party isn’t understood at an American house-warming party, but I sure love explaining it. Those moments that I have to take time to explain what I am saying have now become moments that allow me to explain my background and how it has shaped me into the individual that I am today. And I love who I am today, stuttering or not.

4. My eyebrows are REALLY far apart

I’ve even had someone email me this statement before, like they thought they were helping me from over tweezing. Believe it or not, I was born that way, and I know my left eyebrow sits halfway over my eye. I got the look from my grandfather, and you know what? My grandfather was a pretty awesome person. So good for my spaced out eyebrows. They show off my family history. They show off the genes that also make me who I am. They remind me of family.

5. I am really pale, and I don’t tan…or burn.

I swear. I went to Puerto Rico, barely used sunscreen, and nothing happened. I just don’t’ react – although I can admit that I got extremely burned once in my life. (And that was not fun!) When I was a teenager, I hated how pale I was because it was “cool” to be tan, and everyone thought I stayed inside all of the time. (Which I do now.) But you know what? I like my skin. I like how pale I am because it is me. I don’t care if I glow under black lights. I like who I am, and – again – it’s my Welsh roots. It’s also something I share with my late mother (as well as my crazy, curly hair that I used to hide because straight hair was “cool.”) I should be proud, and I am. Just for clarification reasons, because I do not want this to be taken the wrong way: I have nothing against being tan or any other color for that matter. This is simply me embracing who I am. I am not, in any way, trying to encourage others to be pale like me. Physical appearances do not matter, and that is the ultimate point. 

Now that I shared a few of my previous insecurities, I wanted to add one thing:

I am genuinely a happy person, but there are days that I regress, and that’s okay. I look at insecurities the same way. Even after overcoming them, you might have an insecure moment or two or hundreds over a lifetime, but that’s okay. Just try to remember what’s really important – and that’s what’s on the INSIDE and what resides in your ACTIONS. 

I could can cry about my eyebrows or I can learn how to make them do the wave and laugh at my goofy expressions. I can complain about my injuries like my left hand, but I can also remember that I have other parts of my body that work just fine that others might not even have. A doctor can give me plastic surgery on my body, but only I can change my mind and my heart. And your mind and your heart will guide you, aid you, and embrace you.

No matter what, you can love yourself, and love overcomes everything else.

P.S. I’m still accepting reviewers of Seconds Before Sunrise (book 2 of The Timely Death Trilogy.) If you’re interested in reading my novels, please send me an email at shannonathompson@aol.com. I would love to hear from you. The first one is also on sale for only $3.89, and I would be more than happy to hear your thoughts.

~SAT

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