Guest Blog; Passion – Writing for Yourself

21 Jul

Website Update: The Shannon A. Thompson, author Facebook page has surpassed 500 likes! Thank you for making my trip that much better. I can’t wait to share it with everyone. 

Hey, everyone. It’s Shannon, introducing Ky Grabowski. You might recognize her, because I talk about how wonderful she is all of the time! That is why I was so excited when she agreed to help me keep my blog going. Without further ado, check out this lovely lady:

Passion; Writing for Yourself

 

Writing to me is as much a part of me as my own skin is. I don’t write the words down without seeing them in the world being created. I see the story unfolding before me like an unfinished movie.

When I write, I don’t write for the profit of a career [though of course I admit – having a career in writing would be a dream come true] I write for myself.

Why do you write for yourself and not others?

It used to feel selfish to me but it’s not something I worry about now. I learned a long time ago that writing for others was not the kind of writer I could be. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to write for others, as time went on it proved to deprive me of passion.  [Which often makes me feel guilty] I lost sight of the world my characters were in. I no longer held the passion for writing I could feel inside of me. The picture of who I was couldn’t be painted from others.

I use to write for others because I was taught to give; I grew up feeling good about giving to others all the time. The trouble began when I allowed that to be such a part of my passion that writing suffered. I always had the ability to write and the ideas but when the words were typed out – it was as dull as a white, blank piece of paper.

I quickly found out my strengths and weaknesses

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How come this hopeful approach didn’t work? Recently I was in conversation with someone who felt their writing was awful because people weren’t telling them they were good. They explained how worried they were when they received no feedback. It got me thinking about how I use to be in the exact same position. I was so concerned with the approval of others I forgot about my own approval.

The reason writing to please others didn’t work for me was because I got stuck in the overwhelming pressure and forced my hands. I didn’t believe in the words I wrote or the story. Passion should never be forced.

Force halted passion.

How did this change? Over time I wrote again and decided that there would be no agenda, there would be no profit, and I simply would do it for myself.

This change of mind allowed me to believe in myself in a way I never did before. I didn’t rely on approval or compliments. Through this I was able to disregard a lot of negativity other’s offered. It gave the chance to enjoy my passion and find in myself what I had to offer the world. Writing is my passion and throughout past experiences I learned how to never lose that passion again.

Everyone has a different approach to writing, and through the years the approach I took has changed. This approach works for me and has helped me. This change has allowed me to become more confident in myself and has given me the ability to know when to accept criticism and when not to worry.

Shannon Thompson actually summed it up much better than I, in her spotlight interview. “How do you handle rejection? What advice can you offer to move past it?

Handling rejection is different for everyone, but my biggest part of rejection is defining what kind of rejection it is. For instance, there’s a difference between a “hate” and a “critique.” Everyone will get someone who doesn’t like their work, but if it’s simply “I didn’t like it” you just got a “hate.” There’s nothing constructive about it. So I only pay attention to constructive criticism and/or rejections.”

I love that Shannon looks at rejection as I do. With her words, I can honestly say I am having more fun and enjoying writing as I should be. I think when you have a passion for something, understanding it and why it’s become a passion is important. I can’t escape my writing – I see stories wherever I am.

Writing is that sweet tooth I must satisfy, that addiction I have to succumb and the only way I can breathe in my own skin. Writing as I’ve stated on many occasions provides me an escape from not only reality but myself.

I understand that without writing I would only be wandering in this world.

Without it I’m certain life wouldn’t be better and that I am the best person I can be because of my passion. I wouldn’t be, becoming the woman I am today without writing. I’ve grown in this passion and each time a story is born I learn a little more about myself through that. Writing is who I am, I’m a writer and nothing can take that away from me again. I know what my passion is and how it defines me.

This is how a good thing – turned bad – wound up becoming the best thing to happen to me. This experience reminded me how you can always use the bad to create change and how to use it to your advantage.

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12 Responses to “Guest Blog; Passion – Writing for Yourself”

  1. Ky Grabowski July 21, 2013 at 12:37 am #

    Reblogged this on Ky Grabowski and commented:
    I’m a guest on the blog from talented author of Minutes Before Sunset by Shannon A. Thompson. I had a fun time writing a post for her blog and am so honored to be featured by her. I admire her and respect her so much. Please check her out at https://shannonathompson.com/

  2. Caroline Barker July 21, 2013 at 6:49 am #

    I love this post. Although I am not a writer I am the sort of person that constantly worries about what everyone else is thinking. And yet you are so right in that by doing this you ignore yourself and what you think! In many ways you have to be your own critic, and if you are happy with yourself and what you have done, then in many respects it doesn’t matter too much about others. It may be difficult at times but the biggest believer in you is yourself. Thank you, Shannon and Ky! Caroline 🙂

    • Ky Grabowski July 21, 2013 at 4:45 pm #

      Hi Caroline! 🙂

      I’m happy you enjoyed this post. I appreciate your kind words so much and completely agree with you. Your biggest believer is yourself, and it’s super duper important to believe in yourself 😀 ! It can be difficult but from my experience it’s really worth trying! =)

      Best wishes,
      Cheers

      Ky

  3. jtailele July 21, 2013 at 6:54 am #

    Thank you for your insight on this subject. It has awakened something that I knew, but let fall asleep on me. I have got so caught up in the “mechanics” of writing so I could produce a marketable book, I’ve lost the passion of pure free writing. I think I need to get back to that. Thank you for reminding me.

    • Ky Grabowski July 21, 2013 at 4:48 pm #

      Hi jtailele ! 🙂

      It can be hard to let go and enjoy writing. I’m really grateful for this experience because of how it opened my eyes. I love writing and instead of looking at it like a product I look at it with love now. It’s the best! I hope you can feel that passion you have pumping through you again, it’s such a wonderful feeling. Good luck with everything hun, I look forward to seeing what the future brings!

      Best wishes,
      Cheers

      Ky

  4. Angela July 21, 2013 at 11:11 am #

    Fantastic guest post! I generally tend to write for myself and worry about how marketable my work will be, its great to read some perspective from a different point of view. Thanks for sharing!

    • Ky Grabowski July 23, 2013 at 3:23 am #

      Hello Angela! 😀

      I like how you think! That’s a great way to look at it too 🙂 I’m glad it works for you! Keep up the great work, I look forward to future updates about your work =)

      Best of wishes
      Cheers

      Ky

  5. sammykristenlau July 21, 2013 at 12:22 pm #

    It’s absolutely true that you have to take constructive criticism as opposed to “hating.” Of course, don’t take constructive criticism personally either. Funny thing is that I never got really offended by either hating or constructive criticism.

    I love how your passion for writing fuels you to live rather than wander. It’s admirable. 🙂

    Thank you, Shannon, for having Ky guest post.

    • Ky Grabowski July 21, 2013 at 4:53 pm #

      Hello sammykristenlau 😀

      Yes, I think it’s important to know what kind of criticism you should take. It can really affect people if they believe in the hate. I love that you don’t let either bother you, that’s awesome! Keep that great thing going 🙂

      I appreciate that you think it’s admirable. Makes me smile! Writing is what makes me who I am and I’m happier being apart of that world then I would be without it.

      Best of wishes
      Cheers,

      Ky

  6. Val Vogel July 22, 2013 at 7:08 am #

    Very inspiring, Ky. Some of you writers are like ‘muses’ for those like me!

    • Ky Grabowski July 23, 2013 at 3:24 am #

      Awh Val! You’re so sweet, I just adore you! Thank you for reading this, it means a lot. Good luck with your future books – keep up the awesome work, you’re helping lot’s of people 🙂

  7. prysma August 9, 2013 at 2:30 pm #

    Reblogged this on Prysmcat's Writing About Writing and commented:
    It’s fascinating to me that there are others who feel the same way I do – this is very much in the same spirit as my recent post on publishing, I think. Even once you’ve decided that your own satisfaction is the most important thing of all, it’s always nice to find that you aren’t alone. 🙂

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